Question #8: Heather

First, let me apologize for taking so long to respond. It’s been a very busy month.
I wish I could give you a straightforward answer to this question, but it’s so difficult. We’re all different and how we respond to these situations – externally and internally – is also very unique. As a child, whenever I [...]

Question #9:

Here’s our next question!
Our son had uncorrected clubfeet when we adopted him from China last year.  I’m getting tired of hearing about how “lucky” he is and how “good” we are for adopting him.  Admittedly, his feet would most likely not have been treated in China and life would have been much harder for him, [...]

Question #8: Juli

This is soooo tricky.
Part of me wants to say, let her lead the way. Let her guide the response. But, I also know that in my own life, by four or five I was all too aware of my difference in the world, and never told my parents about the teasing/questions/harassment I endured. So, I [...]

Question #8: JoLynn

I think it’s important to remember that most of the time young kids just want to know why the other person looks different. Kids usually don’t need long drawn out answers…just a basic explanation. Growing up I was called names and rude questions were asked, but I always seemed to handle it. [...]

Question #8

Hi everyone.
Sorry for the delay in my blog posts. School has started here, and it’s taken me a little while to get settled. But, I should be back on track now.
Our next question:
My daughter was born in China and was adopted by my husband and myself at 11 1/2 months.  She has been part of [...]

Question #4: JoLynn

I totally agree with the comments left by Juli & Heather and only have a bit to add.  I also had my set answers that were taught to me by my parents.  To this day…people ask really intrusive & rude questions about my family.  Questions I would never dream of asking them, but they still [...]

Question #4: Heather

Dealing with questions like these are practically a daily event for me – even now in my mid-30s. Some days, depending on the person, the question and my mood, I take the time to talk and “educate”. Other days I simply give one word answers, like “no” (I don’t know who my “real” parents are) [...]

Question #4: Juli

This is sort of the question that has plagued my childhood life. People will ask all sorts of obnoxious questions and assume that they’re entitled to an answer just because you’re adopted, young, a person of color, etc. This is a complex issue, and while I encourage you to view it holistically, I am going [...]

Question 4:

Our next question comes to us from Susan:
My husband and I have a beautiful and intelligent 3 year old daughter from China. We brought her home at 13 months old. Even before we brought her home, the questions from strangers began and has only gotten more frequent, intrusive, and demanding. “Why China? [...]