Question #7: Heather

Thanks for asking this question – I think, for me, I really just need to clarify my earlier post. I do think it’s important that you do what you can on your end to facilitate a search for your child. You’re right – in 30 years it may prove very complicated. That may be just [...]

Question 6: Juli

I’m sorry this is late! Classes start next week, so I’ve been very busy at work, plus organizing meetings and retreats!
Anyway, in response: I don’t really have much to add. I think that as we’ve said before, this is a journey. And everyone’s experience is different. It can’t be forced, and in particular, it is [...]

Question #6: JoLynn

For my own experience…my search didn’t begin with my parents initiating that conversation. However, I always knew that was an option open to me & they’d be supportive. They never pushed and I am glad they didn’t. I think I would have felt strange and uncomfortable if they kept bring up that possibility. [...]

Question #6: Heather

I think it’s great that you’re encouraging your kids to search. That’s not an easy thing to do and I hope that some day the birth mother you found will be open to a relationship some day. As for the other child, I wouldn’t push. If your close relationship continues into adulthood then he / [...]

Question #6

Margie asks:
My children are both from Korea and are now teens.  Our son is in college and our daughter is a senior in high school.  We have a close and open relationship is very open, so discussions of first family, search, and reunion have always been a part of our family.  My husband and I [...]

Question 3: Heather

I think it’s admirable and brave of you to want your daughter to have an open relationship with her birth mother. Many aparents can’t fathom such a move. It takes a lot of guts. I like your idea of leaving a letter and perhaps keeping your information as updated as possible with various organizations over [...]