Hello all,
My name is Juli and I am the founder of Grinding Up Stones: the Asian Adoptee ‘Zine. Although GUS is meant to be a space for adoptees, I felt it was important to provide resources for adoptive parents, as well. Here, adoptive parents can submit questions and receive answers from three different adoptees, each with their own story, experience and opinion. Hopefully this will stimulate productive dialogue and enrich the lives of adoptees and their families.
So, parents, please address your questions to: info@grindingupstones.com
3) Assume good intentions. No one is here to hurt anyone else.
4) Try on the process. It may sound trite, but you you don’t know someone else’s life until you’ve walked in their shoes.
This list is a work in progress and hopefully will be added onto as time goes by!
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August 24, 2008 at 3:28 am
Thanks so much for this site. We adopted a then 2 year old son from China last year with uncorrected clubfeet. I’m getting tired of the comments about how “lucky” he is, and how “good” we are for adopting him. Admittedly, he most likely would not have had his feet corrected in China which would have made life difficult there, but in the balance by far we are the lucky ones for having him in our lives.
I’m afraid if he keeps hearing this from well intentioned strangers he’ll start believing it, and assume he’s got something he needs to live up to.
Any thoughts on this “He’s so lucky, you’re so good” line of discussion that comes up so frequently?