Another question dealing with birth parent searches:
I have a follow-up question on the birth parent search issue. I, too,
have been thinking about ways to open our adoption a bit more on
behalf of my 3-year-old son. I noticed that each respondent said that
the decision of whether or not to have birth family contact should be
up to the child.
My question is, doesn’t waiting 15 or 30 years remove the choice
somewhat? It seems that, if I am able to contact my son’s birth
family and maintain some level of contact with them over the years,
then my son truly does have a choice about whether or not he wants to
have contact with them as he grows older. If we wait to pursue a
birth parent search, it may be impossible to find his birth family,
effectively leaving him WITHOUT a choice to have contact. Or am I
misreading this somehow?
I also wonder how your respondents feel about the suggestions from the
domestic adoption community that open adoptions are ultimately
healthier for children and their identity formation.