I have to admit I never gave it much thought when I was younger. I personally didn’t need/want all the details until I was older. I don’t believe my mom actually told me the specifics until I asked and I think that was around Jr. High. My mom was always honest, but she waited until I was old enough to process everything. By the time I started to wonder…my bond with my mom was strong and I just wanted to know more specific details.
I won’t lie and say I don’t have any abandonment issues because I know I do. I look at this whole adoption thing as a long road I’m on. Sometimes I will be going down the road just fine and other times I hit snow and hail and all of these “issues” come up.
I sometimes feel really sad to think my mom just left me in a basket for whoever to find me. I wonder who found me and what did they think? I wonder if I cried or if people just passed me by. It’s a lot to process even now in my 30’s, but my mom was always honest and positive. She never said anything negative about my biological mother or her choices, but never made excuses either.
I have to say my mom is rather positive in general…so whenever I would have “adoption issues” she would address them and move on. Sometimes that was good and other times not so much, but overall her attitude has always been more about how blessed she was that I came to her. So she never really focused on the details of my abandonment so much. We’ve talked about it, but it has been something more I have dealt with on my own.
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June 3, 2008 at 7:01 pm
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me. They are very meaningful to me.