Comments on: Introduction: Juli http://gusparents.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/introduction-juli/ a resource for adoptive parents by adoptees Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:48:06 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: courtney http://gusparents.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/introduction-juli/#comment-33 courtney Wed, 04 Jun 2008 12:19:59 +0000 http://gusparents.wordpress.com/?p=8#comment-33 Hi, First thank you so much for offering to answer questions from APs, it is very kind and thougtful to offer through this blog. I hate to ask questions to bloggers, on their personal blogs because I feel like that is over stepping bounds. My question: We live in one of the largest cities in Ky, with a University, the diversity is not where I would like it to be but if you look you can find it. We are considering moving, the thing that is holding me here, is that we have a wonderful Korean umc that we attend. They have taken us in and treated my little girl like one of their own children. They have taught me to use chop sticks and about culture etc. My daughter (adopted from Korea, 3 yr old) and my son (bio, 5 yo) attend Korean language school, mostly year round. We have made such wonderful friends and are so blessed to be a part of the community here. I guess my question is is it better to move where there is more diversity, but have to try to seek out another community like the one we have, where my children are comfortable. Or should we stay, I would like to know from your perspectives as adoptees what would you think is best. thanks again, Courtney Hi,
First thank you so much for offering to answer questions from APs, it is very kind and thougtful to offer through this blog. I hate to ask questions to bloggers, on their personal blogs because I feel like that is over stepping bounds.
My question:
We live in one of the largest cities in Ky, with a University, the diversity is not where I would like it to be but if you look you can find it. We are considering moving, the thing that is holding me here, is that we have a wonderful Korean umc that we attend. They have taken us in and treated my little girl like one of their own children. They have taught me to use chop sticks and about culture etc. My daughter (adopted from Korea, 3 yr old) and my son (bio, 5 yo) attend Korean language school, mostly year round. We have made such wonderful friends and are so blessed to be a part of the community here. I guess my question is is it better to move where there is more diversity, but have to try to seek out another community like the one we have, where my children are comfortable. Or should we stay, I would like to know from your perspectives as adoptees what would you think is best.
thanks again,
Courtney

]]> By: Tina http://gusparents.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/introduction-juli/#comment-18 Tina Sat, 31 May 2008 21:49:23 +0000 http://gusparents.wordpress.com/?p=8#comment-18 As a prospective adoptive parent, this is a very helpful and insightful site. I thank each of you for having the courage and desire to share your personal experiences. In reading the site, I get a sense of something that I have often feared..... does the demand for international adoption make the abandonment of children worse? Is my desire to adopt an Asian child helping the situation or making it worse? I know that no-one actually knows the answer to these questions, I just wondered from your prospectives how you feel about caucasions adopting Asian children in general. Although we have waited several years for a child from China, I have often thought of withdrawing. I want so badly to nurture and care for an orphan in hopes of giving them a good life, but is what I can offer truly any better? Will she wish to have been adopted by an Asian family rather than some American family that looks so different? I guess I'm hoping to hear something positive from an Asian adoptee that was adopted by a caucasian family. Wishing you all happiness... As a prospective adoptive parent, this is a very helpful and insightful site. I thank each of you for having the courage and desire to share your personal experiences.

In reading the site, I get a sense of something that I have often feared….. does the demand for international adoption make the abandonment of children worse? Is my desire to adopt an Asian child helping the situation or making it worse? I know that no-one actually knows the answer to these questions, I just wondered from your prospectives how you feel about caucasions adopting Asian children in general.

Although we have waited several years for a child from China, I have often thought of withdrawing. I want so badly to nurture and care for an orphan in hopes of giving them a good life, but is what I can offer truly any better? Will she wish to have been adopted by an Asian family rather than some American family that looks so different?

I guess I’m hoping to hear something positive from an Asian adoptee that was adopted by a caucasian family.

Wishing you all happiness…

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